Eh so I'm a Star Wars fan for lack of a better title.
So hubby as mentioned within reason pretty much just wants me happy (I say within reason as there are financial limitations, so forth) Well I've been a bit discouraged lately with the, albeit to a small degree, bit of loose skin in the tummy region. I mentioned that on a lot of message boards it seems a tummy tuck sometimes is the only fix. Not that hubby wants me to get one - he says I look fine, especially considering the fact 3 months ago I had two kids, but if I want to, then look into it. (Of course that would be easy since I'm dying to have a scar removed too - shall we say somehow I managed to burn my wrist trying to put a frozen pizza into the oven - see why I don't cook? But I digress...........)
But wait..........I'm the "I'll never have plastic surgery" poster-child. I want the girls to grow up happy and okay with how they look / have a great self image. Am I actually considering "crossing over" just to regain my old shape? And for that matter we're not talking about a huge difference. I know there are a lot of moms that don't mind their body changing a bit but call me vain, I'd like to be my pre-pregnancy size. I'll exercise however long / often I need to but if loose skin is the issue, then hmmmm, what to do, what to do.
I'm not a patient person. Having twin newborns can be a trip without it and I'm trying to at least become a bit more patient but eh, well, we'll call it a very slow process. Also the reason after just 3 months I'm complaining about how I look. But hey, I have one size of clothing and all my pretty clothes are just sitting in the closet taunting me. So maybe I should revisit this issue in a few more months and see if a little more time will fix things. True it'll drive me nuts.
So what extreme would you (or have you gone) go to to fix any physical issue?
Is this, all things considered, a pretty petty issue? Oh hell yes. Far more worse things that could be going on and I should, and am, grateful we have two healthy girls and in general life's pretty nice right now, besides maybe needing some sleep. And I feel petty in even talking abuot it. But hey, I liked how I looked pre-kiddies (ok and I tend to be a perfectionist - not a trait I'm too happy with but it is what it is) And I'm too budget-concerned (haha pc way to say cheap) to go buy a new wadrobe. I'm going to somehow find my newfound patience and give it a longer while. Maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised in a few months and not have to ponder the question. Or realize for such a small thing it's not worth it. We can hope. Like I've ever been the type to walk around a lot in a bikini anyway so why am I even worried about it. Not to mention the money issue - for what it costs, way not worth that amount of money.
No cute tangent to switch topics but the girls are pulling an excessively fussy day today (maybe it's the heat or just that age but yikes) Stereo crying is just not fun. Not to mention both girls lately have discovered this new high pitched screeching yell that just, for me, is like nails on a chalkboard. I'm surprised all the glasses in our china cabinet don't shatter into a million pieces. Last night they took their "bedtime" bottle nicely and hubby and I thought we were golden - put them to bed and no problem right? Oh we were so wrong. All of a sudden they both decided to have a 45 minute scream-fest. We even separated them to make sure they weren't sort of feeding off eachother and that did nothing. But just as quickly as it started, they both stopped and went to bed. Hoping they don't pull an encore of that tonight. Best (or worst) part is they'll smile right afterwards (aw...........how cute.......I think)
Oh I totally here you on the crying in stereo. My girls have started doing that a lot lately. It is so hard when it is just you and they both cry. My husband goes back to work on Monday so I will have to learn how to do it by myself and then I go back to work the following week. Then my sister will have the tough job.
ReplyDeleteI say go for the tummy tuck after a few months if you still aren't satisfied. Give the exercise some time and if things don't improve then get yoruself tucked back up. :) I didn't have as much stretchy skin but my stomach is a bit more soft than it was before. I think I can exercise mine back to pre-baby size, or lets hope I can.
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ReplyDeleteI don't have twins, my babies were 13 months apart though, one would finish a stage the other would enter it. kept me prepared (sort of) I know a women that had her first child at age 42 - twin boys. she and her husband had been married for 17 years - yikes! why would someone do that to themselves....
ReplyDeleteif your weight is body size appropriate and you keep extra weight off then after about a year of exercise your body will pop back into position. if you are fixating on it and it adds to your stress and you are really unhappy then have the tummy tuck - will help you in later years to stay 'compressed'. even at my heaviest just after the second baby (my age 20 and now her age 39) yep I am 59 - my tummy was flat - only this past year and an extra 10 lbs am I starting to have gramma spread... depressing.
9.5 months post twins and the skin is still just a hanging over here. Hate it, but right now in my life I can't imagine spending the money on something for me. Maybe in the distant future I will win the lottery, or a large sum of money and go for it. The other problem I have is the pain. I know of a friend who had it done and it was painful for quite a while, and well, I don't want to be in pain.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your decision.