Just my part of the "journey"

First - love auto-posting. Can ramble out a few posts and spread them out and done. Great time-saver. Why did I not start doing this sooner?

So last month I was hesistant to try ICLW. I found a lot of great new blogs and loved reading everyone's stories however and thought it was defintely worthwhile.

Same hesitation this month. I think a lot has to do with the fact I'm done with IF, pregnancy, and all. In hindsight, I should have starting blogging at the "beginning." Not only would I have found a lot of support, but then wouldn't be a "late addition" in terms of the IF/ ALI blogworld. I tend not to post on certain blogs because of this fact. While I can give a rundown of our IF story, as this is family / friends / everyone blog, I'm not going to go into crazy detail. Again reason for the private blog. My IF story will be going up there, and if it only gives hope or answers questions for one person, then that's worth it.

I know nothing of loss or having years and years of IF under my belt. Besides only offering support, I can't relate or remotely know what it feels like. I tend to stay away from infant-loss blogs as well, just as that is a fear I prefer not to have even enter into my mind. Again, should I comment on those? Would the blogger be okay with words of support from someone in my position? I read a blog the other day where she is pregnant with one, having miscarried the twin in the beginning. Does she really want to see a mother of twins commenting? I don't know. Probably varies person to person?

My IRL friend (miscarried twice) and I, back when, had a conversation on miscarrying versus just not being able to get pregnant. I mentioned how I could never imagine what she felt like. She pointed out though, that the end result was both of us with no children. I'm not so sure if it's that simple. Everyone's journey is different so while, true, the result may be the same, that just can't summarize the unique "journey' and feelings along the way. Experience versus perception.

As for me: Skipped the whole TTC on your own. No cycle = no sense in trying for months without assistance. My whole experience of TTC involves the medicated route. From the moment I realized that, I knew our TTC road, whether to a positive end, would be shorter. The stress and money just wouldn't allow for years and years of that, at least for us. I feel very grateful that the last cycle proved worth the effort. However, I also think that cycle, since I knew we were going to take a break regardless, was the least stressful and who's to say that didn't affect the outcome.

Enough rambling. So does anyone else refrain from or hesistant on commenting?